Disastrous or not? Falling in love with a friend

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Falling in love with a friend can happen naturally and unexpectedly. But what can you do about it? If you really are falling in love with a friend and want that friend to love you back, these tips are all you need!

Before you go any further about falling in love with a friend and making a move on your friend, click here to read the introduction and find out if you truly are falling for a friend out of love or just physical attraction.

Once you’re certain that you’re truly falling in love with a friend, and it’s not just a fling thing that you want out of physical attraction, you need to prepare yourself for the real twist in the tale.

Falling in love with a friend

Going out with a friend is something that needs a lot of thought.

And if your friendship does mean a lot to you, think a while before making a move on a friend.

Never forget that a relationship with a friend would never be the same if you ever split up someday.

In most cases, friendships always have a way of twisting itself towards love or emotional affairs, so if you’re falling in love with a friend and want to make a move, do so with your own neck on the line.

Figure your feelings

Ask yourself one last time, are the feelings you have for your friend truly love, is it purely lust, or is it because of an emotional upheaval in your life?

Sometimes, you could misinterpret your feelings when you feel more attached to them all of a sudden, or feel jealous when they start going out with someone else. Be true to yourself about the origin of your feelings.

You really wouldn’t want to propose only to find out in a couple of weeks that you really weren’t in love, and it was just a big crush.

Speak your heart

Hey, it’s your friend we’re talking about right? So just speak your heart out and let them know exactly what you feel. Never go straight in and tell them you love them. Instead, hint to your friend about how perfect your life could be if the both of you could start seeing each other.

Do it as cautiously as possible. Take a few days or even weeks to express yourself, because rushing into it would only make the blow unexpected and harder to face for your friend.

Don’t push your friend

Now, falling in love with a friend is risky, you obviously know you’re taking a chance. And as with every other bet, there’s a good chance that you may even lose.

At times, your friend may just not be willing to look at you as anything more than just a friend. Unfortunately, you have to accept their decision. On the other hand, your friend may just burst out laughing or may even freak out. Give them time to make up their mind. They too may have feelings for you, but probably have never thought about it. So wait.

It may take a while before they could give you any sort of an affirmation.

The fork in the path

This is probably the hardest part of falling in love with a friend and confessing it. If it goes well for you, you may be the happiest person, but if it goes otherwise, then your friendship is definitely in for a new fork in the road. You may be separated and there may be certain awkwardness in your relationship (which can be healed back to normal with time) or you may even feel too embarrassed to face each other again, which means the end of the road for your relationship.

So what really happens next?

What happens next is entirely left to how either of you feel about each other. It may turn out good or it may take a worse turn. I’ve been in these heart pounding moments too. And guess what? I still haven’t really hooked up with any one of my friends.

Somehow it just didn’t feel right after that incident with my best friend years ago. But, on the other hand, if I ever did come across that perfect friend who can blow me off my feet after I’ve weighed him with the pros and cons, I’d jump right into his arms even before he completes his proclamation of love. There’s no question about that.

Admit it, when one of you starts looking at the other as something more than just a friend, the relationship has changed already, hasn’t it? And every now and then, someone’s always falling in love with a friend.

Do understand that falling in love with a friend is natural, but it’s not always romantic love from both sides.

Falling in love with a friend is that stage when you can’t change it, nor can you get over it. What’s the difference between lovers and best friends anyways? Just the fact that you get to pull down your mate’s pants when you’re both lovers!

On the other hand, when you’re just friends, you don’t really have to bother with the damn pants, you can still pull their leg!

But all said and done, sometimes, you just can’t help falling in love with a friend. So if that spark does ignite and you have to confess your love, go ahead. But keep it simple and don’t ever let it come as a surprise.

So if you find yourself falling in love with a friend, learn how to drop those hints and make a move at the right time. We’ll keep our fingers crossed for you!